By Gregory Alford, MS. PSY.
Each day, many of us play an internal game tug-of-war with self-trust and self-doubt pulling us in opposite directions. When self-trust gives way, a cascade of negative feelings rush in.
What is Self-Trust?
Author Steven Covey describes self-trust as feeling confident and secure in our lives. Strong self-trust results in deeper a connection to ourselves, our loved ones, co-workers and community. It also is an indispensable part of self-reliance, resiliency and your ability to overcome inevitable setbacks.
Another benefit of enhancing self-trust, is it diminishes doubt. When we give into doubt, confidence and self-esteem are stripped, and energy and momentum are lost. When your thoughts tell you, “no,” “not now,” or “this is too hard,” when you want to take action – it is doubt talking.
Fortunately, you can improve your self-trust in many ways, including:
- Make and keep promises by setting small goals and tracking achievements
- Focus on what actions led you to achieve previous goals
- Develop support structures and habits that encourage achievement (i.e., self-care, calendars, checklists)
- Visualize success
- Choose to believe in yourself!
There are also things you can stop doing as well, such as:
- Paying attention to negative people
- Comparing yourself to others
- Worry about what others think of you
Don’t be afraid to ask for help if you need it. We all need help getting unstuck every once in a while. Be kind to yourself and reach out people who love and support you, a coach or therapist to help your build self-trust and confidence so you can achieve greatness.